Bent, Not Broken: Living a Congruent Life in a Fractured World; A Conversation with Rivka Bent

There are conversations that inform, and then there are conversations that initiate. This one belongs to the latter. Sitting with Rivka Bent feels like standing near a steady fire: warm, clarifying, and impossible to fake. She doesn’t speak about congruency. She embodies it. Through grief, faith, family, and fierce honesty, Rivka reminds us that a life cracked open by loss can still be a life that gives warmth and light.

“That weight never leaves my hands. I just get stronger with its presence.”

In this episode, Rivka shares the lived reality of carrying unbearable loss without closing the heart. She speaks candidly about losing her son, about the weight that never disappears, and about how strength is forged not by dropping the burden—but by learning to carry it with grace. Her reflections move effortlessly between the sacred and the practical, from scripture to road rage, from family fractures to radical patience.

This is also a conversation about love stripped of sentimentality. Love as practice. Love as restraint. Love as the daily choice to not interrupt another person’s knowing that they matter. Rivka reframes faith not as doctrine, but as alignment—living the life you sing about, whether anyone is watching or not.

If you’ve ever felt the tension between joy and sorrow, conviction and compassion, or strength and tenderness—this episode will meet you exactly where you are.

5 TAKEAWAYS FOR THE CURIOUS, THE CREATIVE, AND THE STILL STANDING

Congruency is not the absence of pain, it is the courage to live truthfully with pain.
Grief does not get lighter; we grow stronger in how we carry it.
Love is not a feeling but a disciplined practice: patience, kindness, restraint.
True “punk rock” is refusing to perform an identity and choosing authenticity instead.
The hardest place to live congruently is not the world, it’s within our own families.

Grief, faith, and the courage to live what you believe

This episode of Moped Outlaws In this deeply human and contemplative episode, Marc and Greg sit down with writer and educator Rivka Bent to explore what it truly means to live a congruent life. Through stories of profound loss, faith, grief, and love, Rivka shares how a broken heart can remain open without becoming bitter. This is a conversation about integrity of spirit, the discipline of love, and the quiet strength required to stay human in a fractured world.

Guest Links

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mybentlife/

LinkedIn: Just Don’t Go There

Email: rivkabent@gmail.com

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